I came across an interesting quote the other day: “Sometimes the most loving thing we can do for someone who has had a relapse is to not sound loving.”
The prophet said it like this: “The Lord spoke to me with a strong hand” (Isaiah 8:11).
You know someone who is struggling in their addiction. You might even be married to that person. And your first instinct is probably to extend grace. That’s a good thing. But grace isn’t always squishy. Sometimes it’s hard.
Encourage your friend or loved one. But be willing to speak to them “with a strong hand.” What does that look like? I suggest two things:
- High standards
- Hard questions
Recovery Step: Be willing to set high standards and to ask hard questions. You know someone who is in relapse. Perhaps it is time to speak to them “with a strong hand.”