Healthy sexuality: 0-3
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, that should be a red flag for you. But it is perfectly normal to struggle with sexuality. Very few move completely beyond fantasy and giving attractive people a second glance or look. You may struggle in a few of these areas and be considered healthy in your sexuality.
Borderline addiction: 4-10
If you answered “yes” to more than three questions, you should seek the help of a therapist. You may be a sex addict. At the very least, you struggle with unhealthy obsession and compulsion. This almost always escalates to more detrimental activities.
If you answered “yes” to more than ten of these questions, be assured you are a porn/sex addict, and you are in immediate need of help. We suggest you do the following within the next 48 hours.
- Make an appointment with a counselor. We suggest a CSAT (certified sex addiction therapist). You will find a listing of CSAT counselors on our website.
- Attend a 12-step meeting. Both SA (sexaholics anonymous) and SAA (sex addicts anonymous) groups can be found nationwide. We suggest you attend six meetings before deciding whether this works for you. Live, in-person meetings, as well as phone meetings can be found online.
- Visit our resource link to find books that will be helpful in your recovery.
- Begin praying the “3rd Step Prayer” every day:
“God, I offer myself to you, to build with me and do with me as you will. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do your will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them might bear witness to those I would help of your power, your love, and your way of life.”