Therapist Darlene Lancer suggests seven steps to rebuilding trust with the one you have hurt.
- Listen to her pain.
- Empathize with her.
- Ask what you can do to gain her trust again.
- Change your behaviors.
- Take responsibility for what you have done.
- Express genuine regret.
- Embrace open communication.
The Bible is pro-trust. Paul wrote, “Love believes all things” (1 Corinthians 13:7). But when we breach that trust with our behaviors and dishonesty, that trust can take years to rebuild. Today is a pretty good day to start.
Recovery Step: If you have broken the trust of your spouse with your addictive behaviors, begin to take the steps necessary to rebuild that trust and relationship.