An analogy that is often used to describe the process of rebuilding trust is that of the empty bucket. We say to the addict, “The reason your wife doesn’t trust you is that your bucket is empty. You need to refill your bucket.”
We refill the bucket by going to meetings, doing therapy, and remaining faithful.
But the problem with this analogy is that the bucket itself is in disrepair. Before you refill your bucket, you need to rebuild your bucket. Plug the hole. Figure out how to keep it from springing a leak in the future.
Paul said, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25). Guys, that’s the least we can do.
The best day to begin the process of rebuilding trust was five years ago. The second best day is today.
Recovery Step: Start the hard work of rebuilding your bucket.