Travis went to see his supervisor in the front office. “Boss,” he said, “we’re doing some heavy cleaning at our house tomorrow, and my wife needs me to help in the attic and the garage, moving and hauling stuff.”
“We’re shorthanded here, Travis,” replied his boss. “I can’t give you the day off.”
“Thanks, boss,” Travis responded. “I knew I could count on you!”
For centuries, men have honed the skill of not helping their wives. But Scripture contradicts this approach. “Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them” (Colossians 3:19).
Let’s apply this to the addict. If you are in recovery, what can you do to love your wife and support her in her own recovery? I suggest five things.
- Give a full clinical disclosure.
- Stay sober.
- Be patient.
- Encourage her recovery work.
- Put God first, above all else.
Recovery Step: It’s not enough to love your wife unless you put actions behind it.