Can you be fully loved by someone until you are completely known by that person?
Let me answer with an analogy. Suppose you go into a new restaurant and order a cheeseburger. It is the best cheeseburger you’ve ever had in your life. The next day, a buddy asks you about that restaurant. He asks about the food. You say, “It’s a great restaurant! Their food is fantastic!”
I would argue that this is the wrong answer. You don’t know that their food is fantastic. You don’t even know if it’s just “okay.” All you know is they make great burgers. You don’t know about their fish, salads, steaks, or lasagna. You only know what you have tasted yourself.
When we keep secrets from our spouse, we still want them to love and embrace us. But they only know the part of the menu we have let them partake of.
Recovery Step: We can be fully loved, but only once we are fully known. God set the standard: “But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ” (Ephesians 2:4-5).
