“Love means never having to say you’re sorry” (Ryan O’Neal, Love Story, 1970).
That’s true. When you hurt your spouse, you don’t have to say you’re sorry. But it’s a really good idea. Sure, living amends and a change in behavior trump what you say. But learning to express remorse, repentance, and regret is huge. And learning to say “I messed up” and “I’m sorry” is gold.
Good words don’t erase bad behavior. But they are a good start. In all things, we must learn to
“show deep love for each other” (1 Peter 4:8).
If you truly love the person you have wounded, the issue is not what you have to say, but what you want to say.
Recovery Step: Learn to say you’re sorry.