Communication is about more than the words we speak. Much more.
According to psychologist Albert Mehrabian, when we measure the credibility of another person’s words, we assign 55 percent of the weight to her body language, 38 percent to her tone, and just seven percent to the actual words.
That’s not to say that words don’t matter. In fact, Solomon said, “A person’s words can be life-giving water; words of true wisdom are as refreshing as a bubbling brook” (Proverbs 15:4).
But communication is about more than words. Here are a few takeaways:
- Practice empathy.
- Listen to your body when your spouse speaks.
- Use a gentle tone.
Communication is both an art and a learned skill. And as a skill, it is something you can always improve.
Recovery Step: Take special care with how you speak to your spouse, not just what you actually say.