How Bad Is It?

Are you married to a person in denial? Maybe it’s you who is in denial. How do you know if your sexual compulsivity rises to the level of addiction, really?  In his article, “Sex Addiction 101,” Robert Weiss helps the porn user understand the magnitude of his problem. He writes, “The simple truth is that…

Church Janitor

Jerry never learned to read or write, but he somehow always found a way to get by. After coming to Christ, he went to his pastor, looking for a job. His pastor offered him the janitor’s job at the church. But when he discovered that Jerry couldn’t read or write, he told him he did…

Marathons

A marathon is 26 miles, 385 yards. Each year, more than 800 marathons are held throughout the world. Larger marathons can draw tens of thousands of participants. And every one of those runners has two things on his or her mind during the entire race – pain and the finish line.  Life is a marathon.…

One Day at a Time

One day at a time. We hear that at 12-Step meetings all the time. And it’s true. We can only claim sobriety one day at a time. That may be as important a truism as you will ever hear in the recovery world.  For validation of this principle, we need look no further than that…

PPA

I am a card-carrying member of PPA – People Pleasers Anonymous. I suspect most of us are. And making others happy is generally a good thing, up to a point. But as addicts, we can cross that point, almost without notice. Norman Vincent Peale said, “The problem with most of us is that we’d rather…

Cash In

Justin Timberlake delivered this line in The Social Network (2010): “A million dollars isn’t cool. You know what’s cool? A billion dollars.”  Paul wrote, “The love of money is the root of all evil” (1 Timothy 6:10).  Money can present challenges for anyone. But that is especially true for the sex addict. I’m sure you…

Never Hang Your Head

I stepped into my first recovery meeting in 2013. I have met a lot of men and women with successful recovery. I have something to learn from all of them. But as I think about each one, there is a common thread that runs throughout each one.  Those with solid recovery come from different backgrounds,…

Little Things

Focus on the little things. Make a meeting. Call someone in recovery. Work one Step. Pray a short prayer. Go for a walk. Read a good devotional. Memorize one verse of Scripture. That’s how you secure sobriety – by stringing together several “little things.”  Dale Carnegie said, “Do the little things right and the rest…

Mistaken Identity

I’ll give you a name and you tell me what he is best known for – Gaston Chevrolet. I’ll give you a few hints. Gaston Chevrolet was a race car driver early in his life. He competed in the 1919 Indianapolis 500. Got it? If you said he was the guy for whom the Chevrolet…

Tickets on the Windshield

Bob came out of a local store, only to be greeted by a motorcycle cop writing a ticket. Bob asked, “Why the ticket?”  The officer replied, “Your tags are expired.” Bob responded, “You are a pencil-necked idiot!” The cop proceeded to add three more tickets to the car’s windshield. “What do you have to say…